My wife and I shared swinging experiences after only a few years of our 35 year marriage.
I absolutely loved those experiences and would have been more than willing to continue enjoying them every now and then.
My wife simply had difficulty dealing with the moral implications they had to her. So, we stopped.
About 10 years ago she joined me in some online, very soft, swinging and we searched for that perfect couple to, perhaps, go further with.
It seams that we just never found that couple and she tired of looking, then totally backed out of agreeing to experiment at all again. We did find one or two 'halves' of couples that were appealing but never a couple.
Well, recently, one of the 'halves' that we both liked the absolute best contacted us. It seems that he and his wife have pretty much split up.
To my great delight my wife is as interested in him as I am. He and I hit it off, both times, and love sharing stories, thoughts, and porn sites. This time my wife is hitting it off with him too, in a less-sexual friendship.
He is one of the most considerate, nice, guys I've ever known but is also as open and honest with his fantasies and desires as me.
Now I've never really given any consideration to a poly relationship with anyone, man or woman, before but have been thinking a lot recently about him coming into our lives.
I could enjoy that a lot. I could share her with him and he and I could share her too. And she could have the benefit of either of us alone at her choosing.
And something tells me that my wife is thinking this same thing right now.
He and I have discussed it and he's willing to spend the time and effort it's going to take if it's going to come to be.
Ultimately, it'll need to be her idea but she knows, from many past discussions, that I'd be totally for anything like that so she isn't going to have consider anything except her desires in this.
Right now I'm just so high on the thoughts of my wife and I finally finding that common ground on this matter. This has been our one and only incompatibility in a long, loving, and otherwise perfect, marriage.
Just wanted to share.
Rich