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Originally Posted by intuition897 It's one of the reasons we don't play solo. Most people are pretty nice, but it only takes one freak who is off his meds to drop something in your drink and you wake up the next morning - if you're lucky! - with a pussy full of God knows what. Or maybe your husband never sees you again. Even in the best case scenario, where you come home after being assaulted, what are you going to do about it? Go to the police? Yeah. Sure. |
This is a reason you don't play solo? Seriously, this may happen to any single gal (or guy?) dating someone new... and for the sake of bumping against someone off his meds, you don't have to be a swinger to face a nightmare like this one.
I believe if you make a list of 10 reasons for not playing solo, this should be the last one to worry about, since you don't need an stretched example involving a psychotic guy to call for troubles.
Of course, this guy looks like a bastard for me at first glance, but it's important to point out we fear this from single guys preciselly because this is a "normal" behavior to expect in our society, where after all, it's less ill seen to cheat than to swing.
Also, notice the "joint decision" they took when meeting this guy was a rejection, for whatever reason (even if the OP vibes about this guy feature).
And, to be fair, there are a lot of single guys who are safe playmates, even for "solo playing", it is just they fight against the statistics since most of the single guys, even when completelly normal, are way off grounds regarding to swinging and understanding the couple requirements, while wanting an easy way to get laid.
I believe no one addressed the other guy here because it's the lesser of the issues for the OP. The problem here isn't about him, and perhaps not even about the solo playing, but to do it behind the OP's back, in a deceiving way.
And again, as I stated before, my smell tells me there is something else going on under the waters, from the way the OP's wife told him about her "affair", as if she were not expecting this to be deceifull. It could be a "play dumb" strategy on her behalf, but if she was properly aware of the OP expectations by then, then it'd be a pretty stupid strategy.
I strongly believe this sort of issues commes from a previous "deceipt", by the time every party express their expectations about each other behavior and the wanted and unwanted outcomes. We all trend to "let some things pass" because we dislike to give it a tought, to feed our fears, and in the hope for the best to happen, and this is the provious deceipt, one than isn't necesarily mean, nor doing on purpose to deceive the other, but perhaps a way to deceive ourselves. We fail to communicate, but not even with our spouse, but with ourselves. And when the reality goes against our hopes, we suddenly face this deception, we get hurt, and we trend to blame on others for it.
This is just the human nature, and of course, it isn't necesarily this case, but for as long as certain odd questions about the whole story remains unanswered, I preffer to keep the human nature option open for discussion, following a motto attributed to Einstein (re translated from Spanish the best way I can): "we shouldn't blame on devilness for those acts able to be explained by the human stupidity" (and admitting I may be the most stupid in the face of the earth).