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Originally Posted by Confused In PA so after some time to deal with this mess, I've asked her the obvious question, Why? Her reply was "I don't know, it was just sex" and "it didn't mean anything" |
My #1 problem with her reason/response to you is her complete lack of empathy and respect for
you. Where are
you in her answer? So "it didn't mean anything" to her. She is only responding to the sex, not to the
real questions: "WHY did you go behind my back, after we emailed and turned him down as a couple, which was our
joint decision? Why did you pursue him and not tell me? Why did you meet him and fuck him without me there? Do you think that what you did (going behind my back) is in ANY way related to the swinging we talked about?"
As a wife, why did she not consider at all what it may or may not mean to
you?
These are the things that I would want to know. It would be all about her complete lack of respect for you, and what appears to be her lack of caring how you feel.
I hope that you're doing okay, and I really hope that you do get some counseling for yourself to help you get through this, regardless of the outcome with your wife.