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If recovering from an affair is a twelve-step process, getting back to swinging is...oh...about step 30.

I agree with SouthBond in one respect: 13 years IS a lot of time to flush away...I guess the Mrs. should've thought about that before she fucked it away. Whether you forgive her or not is up to you, but if I were you, I'd wait until she's hurting (a LOT) from the realization of what she's done to you and your marriage with her stupidity. Unless she fully (FULLY) understands what she threw away with her dishonesty, the begging for forgiveness you see right now is nothing but damage control. Pat things down, smooth things over, "There there there, SEE?? ALL better...right? Honey?" Don't fall for it. Cheating changes things, even after the couple recovers. There's always scar tissue and it aches when the storms blow through. Not much, but always just enough to remind you that things have changed. Unless you wait, she'll do it again. Guaranteed.