[sereneiders]

I am with Vegas Lee here.

Even when we only hear one of the bells, we often cannot avoid putting ourselves in the OP shoes, adding logs to the fire as if everithing else that wasn't told were matching our personal background.

It calls my attention the way she told you she had this meeting... she wasn't taking a deffensive, guilty aproach, but she told you this in bed. It seems to me she didn't expected this reaction from you, and this leads me to ask... why?. Because at some point you have to do with that why.

Obviously there was a lack of communication here, one that misslead both of you into expect the opposite from what happened, and this seems to be a shared responsibility.

I believe we lack several pieces of this puzzle as to become judgamental towards the wife.