Thanks for all the replies. As I said, as of last year we did not discuss swinging at all. It's too early to tell but I'm not sure she's worth the effort. I guess I should have payed a little more attention to the information I was reading and took to heart what everyone has said about the single males. What was supposed to be something for US turned out to be something for him and her.
I guess I am one of those unlucky guys
who's attempt at living out a fantasy created a very bad reality.