About a year and a half ago we started talking about swinging. She had previous experience I did not.
We read the forums, checked out some sites (AFF/Swing Lifestyle) talked a little more and decided to post an ad
. After many replys we decided to meet with one of the men who caught her eye. We met for dinner, talked for awhile and went our separate ways. On the way home and during some play time I asked her what she thought and her reply was "I'm not sure about him" and I responded that I wasn't sure either. WE agreed that he wouldn't be for us so I sent an e-mail to him explaining thanks but no thanks. I thought that was the end of it.
Flash forward to yesterday and during some play time talk she tells me that a few days after I sent OUR reply she e-mailed him and told him that she was interested. They met at a hotel and played leaving me completely unaware.
So basically I'm furious, embarrassed, have very low self esteem right now because I was played for a fool. Needless to say all of this has caused some major problems between us. Since the initial ad post and what I thought was our mutual agreement the idea of swinging was never brought up. Most likely never will be again from where I'm at.
I am not sure what to do or where to go from here. Can I ever really trust her again?