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Annie07 · 07-07-2007, 11:43 AM

I agree that cheating is basically wrong but that it sometimes seems like it is better than the alternative. I have had a previous relationship that lasted 7 years. During that time my then spouse became more and more selfish as he felt more secure that I would stay with him after moving in together, having children, buying a house etc. He was very selfish both in and out of bed, making sure he got what he wanted. It came to the point that I couldn´t stand him touching me...hell, I didn´t even want to look at him. A friend of mine gave me the advise to find me a lover but to stay in my relationship because of my children. I have never cheated on anyone but at the time I really considered it. Finally I came to the conclusion that even though I had lost all respect for my spouse I didn´t want to cheat on him so I moved out.

After I left things really started to get ugly. There was no lower limit on what he would say and do to get back at me for leaving him even putting our children in the middle. I wont go into the details but one of the things he did was to accuse me of cheating with his best friend who for some reason thought it was a good idea to say that I had been trying to get him into bed even though it wasn´t true. Well my point is that I really really regret that I didn´t cheat. Atleast I could have had som fun during those years with that excuse for a man, but instead I stayed faithfull to someone who really didn´t deserve it.

This might not apply to the situation in this thread but I am only trying to point out that when it comes to cheating sometimes it´s not all black or white but that there may be a few grey areas. And to break up a relationship when children are involved is not easy.

07-07-2007, 11:43 AM	#58 (permalink)
Annie07 Registered Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 3 Location: Europe Status: Couple F	Re: Any Men Whose Wives Refuse to Even Consider Swinging? I agree that cheating is basically wrong but that it sometimes seems like it is better than the alternative. I have had a previous relationship that lasted 7 years. During that time my then spouse became more and more selfish as he felt more secure that I would stay with him after moving in together, having children, buying a house etc. He was very selfish both in and out of bed, making sure he got what he wanted. It came to the point that I couldn´t stand him touching me...hell, I didn´t even want to look at him. A friend of mine gave me the advise to find me a lover but to stay in my relationship because of my children. I have never cheated on anyone but at the time I really considered it. Finally I came to the conclusion that even though I had lost all respect for my spouse I didn´t want to cheat on him so I moved out. After I left things really started to get ugly. There was no lower limit on what he would say and do to get back at me for leaving him even putting our children in the middle. I wont go into the details but one of the things he did was to accuse me of cheating with his best friend who for some reason thought it was a good idea to say that I had been trying to get him into bed even though it wasn´t true. Well my point is that I really really regret that I didn´t cheat. Atleast I could have had som fun during those years with that excuse for a man, but instead I stayed faithfull to someone who really didn´t deserve it. This might not apply to the situation in this thread but I am only trying to point out that when it comes to cheating sometimes it´s not all black or white but that there may be a few grey areas. And to break up a relationship when children are involved is not easy.