I can't argue with that, Alura. I just feel that when a relationship has a thorn that big buried in its side (covered over though it may be), I, personally, wouldn't have much hope for the quality of the remainder of the relationship. If the relationship is all about longevity, then he's all set. But again, personally, I prefer quality over quantity. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that prolonged pain. It's like having an impairment of some sort and not even knowing it.
I guess maybe that's it. Unlinke you and Laura, or Mr. and Mrs. Spoomonkey or many others on the board, I can't boast that my relationship with Mr. intuition was always beautiful. I don't hold it against any of you,
, but I do envy you all those extra years that you had together, being one another's best friends, that Mr. intuition and I wasted in our dishonesty with ourselves and with one another. It's when you can see the contrast between "settling for" and true happiness that the tragedy of it really hits you. If you've never seen how good things can be, you don't have any perspective, and "settling for" is all you know.