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**Alura** · 07-04-2007, 06:43 AM

Most times, when people confess affairs, the underlying purpose is not to "come clean" but to inflict pain on the spouse.

I'm not convinced DKent should "come clean," Shelly. It seems to me that his wife doesn't deserve the pain it would give her. I think he should carry his past foibles to the grave and live with the knowledge that he's not the knight he would like to believe he is. Admitting that to himself is probably about as far as he would be able to go.

But I also think he should quit kidding himself by believing he's done her no harm.

Still, I would not be surprised (and neither should he) if one day his wife says, "I know about Mary, Elizabeth, Wynona, Denise, ..."

Mr. Alura

07-04-2007, 06:43 AM	#53 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,144 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Re: Any Men Whose Wives Refuse to Even Consider Swinging? Most times, when people confess affairs, the underlying purpose is not to "come clean" but to inflict pain on the spouse. I'm not convinced DKent should "come clean," Shelly. It seems to me that his wife doesn't deserve the pain it would give her. I think he should carry his past foibles to the grave and live with the knowledge that he's not the knight he would like to believe he is. Admitting that to himself is probably about as far as he would be able to go. But I also think he should quit kidding himself by believing he's done her no harm. Still, I would not be surprised (and neither should he) if one day his wife says, "I know about Mary, Elizabeth, Wynona, Denise, ..." Mr. Alura
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