[yourbitterpill]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

From what you wrote in your original post, I'm a little suspicious of the guy half of this couple. He wants to sort of pull your wife to him for the weekend, but his wife doesn't want the same thing with you. Then, they want you to be "dedicated" to them during social occasions with other people. Is it more the husband who doesn't want you talking to others, or is it both of them? In either case, that combined with the dishonesty is enough to make me wonder whether the guy has control issues, in other words whether he wants to gather you both in and control what you do to make himself feel big.
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About "sleep-swapping" as a close friend calls it-- Mr. Fuse and I happily do that with couples with whom we have ongoing relationships. Some couples do, some don't, and we're fine with it either way. We both love it. It does encourage bonding though, so it's something you should decide between yourselves. Like a lot of things in this lifestyle, if it makes you insecure, don't even consider it even if you think you might like it. If you have no urge to do it, then the question is moot.
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QFT.

I have a lot of misgivings about your predicament couple4. Keep your BS detector set to HIGH the next time you're meeting up. Something tells me you're not getting the full story here... in many ways.