Shelly: You've been right about much here but not that she knows about my past cheating. She knows nothing. Zip. Yes, I've been THAT careful. To be 100% accurate, it's not just "the hassle" of setting up secret trysts as Spoomonkey asserts - it's actually that I WANT to be exclusive to my wife, and seeing her finally beginning to open up into a person who can give more intimacy gives me hope that my needs can and will again be fulfilled by her. For the record, you're all entirely wrong in saying I ever denied my family one moment of the time they deserved, spending it with another woman. You have no clue, so don't even go there. I've doted on my family (wife and kids) more than anyone I know, even to the detriment of my own business through the years - taking days off for ballgames or dance recitals.<p>
Do I want to swing just so I can fuck other women? Absolutely not! I'd rather watch my wife enjoying the scene, whether it's merely observing others, or being gang-banged, and sit by the side without touching anyone else, than to indulge myself while she either does nothing or goes through the motinos just for me but doesn't like it. And that's ONLY if that is what SHE wants! I opened up the can of worms (and although the day wasn't well-chosen, it is irrelevant to the situation and of course, not malicious as someone suggested) in the belief that she MIGHT be one of those "quiet" women harboring secret desires, or maybe a latent curiousity in such thing. Since then, I've learned I was wrong. She isn't interested and swinging is off the table. I acknowledged it and accepted it and my original post was merely to discuss this turn of events with other men in the same boat.<p>
In all your vehement efforts to condemn me and throw rocks, only a few of you actually are hearing me.