[VegasLee]

I would not talk to the other couples until you sit down and have a nice face to face talk about all this with your husband.

This is not something that should be a surprise or involve other people in until you are both on the same page and committed to doing this.

Set your limits, stick to them and do what works for the two of you. Not for others and don't let others seduce you or your husband into anything. You will regret it later if you do.