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gandm · 07-02-2007, 11:25 PM

The number 1 piece of advice I'd like to offer is to talk to your husband in advance and get agreement on your limits and his limits. Setting limits and not exceeding them (make sure to keep his trust) will allow you both to be comfortable with the world you're entering. You will also find that you might need a way for one to tell the other to stop without having to stand up and yell stop (setup a code word or something). Again, this helps establish trust (i.e. "Honey, if either of us becomes uncomfortable, this is how we'll handle it ...").

Try to not allow your excitement to take your eyes off the real prize. In my opinion, the real prize is having a relationship where you both have the trust and understanding so you can chase down your fantasies together.

Good Luck

07-02-2007, 11:25 PM	#2 (permalink)
gandm Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 16 Location: Ohio Status: M. Male	Re: Friends surprised us, I'm interested but not sure hubby is... Advice? The number 1 piece of advice I'd like to offer is to talk to your husband in advance and get agreement on your limits and his limits. Setting limits and not exceeding them (make sure to keep his trust) will allow you both to be comfortable with the world you're entering. You will also find that you might need a way for one to tell the other to stop without having to stand up and yell stop (setup a code word or something). Again, this helps establish trust (i.e. "Honey, if either of us becomes uncomfortable, this is how we'll handle it ..."). Try to not allow your excitement to take your eyes off the real prize. In my opinion, the real prize is having a relationship where you both have the trust and understanding so you can chase down your fantasies together. Good Luck