[mrs good times]

Originally Posted by couple4fun2821

The thing is, is that the male from the other couple wants a FULL swap. I mean he wants to be my wife’s husband for the weekend. He wants to sleep in the bed with her, cuddle, kiss, dance, buy food for, everything. I really don’t mind all that too much. I mean I would like to at least actually sleep with my own wife (which I did. I made that clear) but his wife doesn’t seem to want the same, or she doesn’t receive the same. What I mean is that she doesn’t seem to want to me to do the same to her.

Swapping partners for the day happens to be a fantasy of mine but it is not the norm in swinging. This is something that would only work and be fun if all the parties involved were on the same page and and just as excited about the prospect. It doesn't sound like your friends are even on the same page with each other let alone with you so I would avoid this situation.

We are the type of swingers that are willing try most anything once. We have changed partners for the evening (sleeping in separate rooms, same house, for the night). It was okay and there wasn't any issue of trust, but it just isn't for us. We tried it, didn't care for it, so we won't do it again.

Originally Posted by couple4fun2821

Also at the social we went to, they didn’t really want us talking to other people. They seemed to get annoyed if my wife mingled as she so often does. It was just kinda awkward at times. It seemed to us that they were the monogamous swinging couple that wanted to changes partners for the weekend. Has anyone ever some across anything like this?

We have run into this on occasion but it's always been with newbies. I think that new people in the lifestyle tend to attach themselves to play partners like a toy that they don't want to share. They are afraid you may find someone else that you think is more fun and then they will be cast aside.

Originally Posted by couple4fun2821

Oh and also, they told us about a couple they “met” at the social the weekend before who just happened to show up this weekend. They said the other couple was fun and that they only talked to them and didn’t play. We found out later they did play with them. Like I said My wife and I could care less if they did or not, it was just strange that they would out right lie about it.

Again, I think this is a newbie problem. They want you to be available for them when they want you. If you know they are playing with others then they have to expect that you are doing the same and they may not want that. They fear that you may turn them down some evening because you have a night out planned with someone else.

In the end it boils down to you, as a couple, doing what is fun and comfortable for you. If it's not fun to be out with them because of all these issues then it's time to move on or confront them and work it out.