Hi all, my name is Tony, I'm 26, and my wife Karen and I have been married for almost 2 years now. The subject of a threesome, or swinging has come up before, and my wife didn't seem uposed to it, but never really said she's comfortable with it either. The hard part is she will only talk about sex and stufflike that if she's horny, bringing it up at any other time probably wouldn't get much of a response. I really don't want to push the issue and turn her off of the idea, so I try not to bring it up very often. My wife has taken part in this kind of thing before, with an ex, but she was heavily into drigs and partying every day and other things that she is ashamed of, and has succesfully put behind her for years now. I think she is ashamed of all of the stuff she did back then as a whole, and kind of lumps the sexual part of it in with the rest and is a bit ashamed of it too. However she is pretty relaxed sexually with me, and it's obvious that she is into chicks. She has said the she might do another threesome or something if the situation presented itself that she was comfortable in, but nothing else has really been said about it since. There was one instance years ago when we came close: one night before we got married, Karen, a female friend of hers, and I were all together at my apartment watching some movies (in a, uh,.... chemically enhanced state) and all the peices were in place for a threesome, but noone made the first move. I only found out months later that it could have easily happened. DOH!!
Anyway, onto the situation.
My wife and I went out to eat last night to celebrate her birthday. We sat down at the table, and the waitress comes over, she is VERY cute, and obviously full of personality, quite flirtatious, and all smiles. She came back to our table 5-6 times to take our drink order, give us our drinks, get our food order etc. At one point I noticed that my wife seemed to flirt back, but I dismissed it as wishful thinking. The next time she comes the table my wife cracked a joke at her and gave her a sheepish grin, hmmm.... She comes back for our order, my wife is staring her in the eyes, and yep, and grinning again, she's flirting I'll be damned! When the food came her steak was wrong, and had this yucky marinade all over everything. She was kinda pissed off about it, because we didn't have time for her to send it back and wait for a new one to be cooked, so she was stuck eating it. It was too bad because I wanted to see if more flirting went on, and was having fun. I have thought about this all night long. What do you all think I should do? I want to aproach this gently, and not puch my wife toward anything she doesn't want, but then again sometimes I think she wants to let the bad girl out, but is ashamed or unsure of herself. I have a couple more questions about swinging in general to ask later, but I think this is enough to answer for now. I really apreciate the advice, as I love and respect my wife, and want to do right by her, but man the sheer amount of patients this is taking aint easy!
Thanks,
Ready2xplod