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Kilauea · 07-02-2007, 03:29 AM

This is a very interesting subject. For me, I don't think I'd get involved with someone that I wouldn't want to be around if I went on vacation so it wouldn't be a big deal. It would be a lot more fun with 3 rather than 2!

But to your specific situation. I would think that if you can offer to not go and gauge how they respond you'd be able to figure out what the truth is. I'm a very blunt person, usually, and I'd probably just try to not beat around the bush and just say what it is I'm worried about to them directly. "I'm worried you are just being nice to me but you really want time alone with him. If thats the case then it is ok with me if you guys go alone and have a good time." That is, of course, if it IS ok with you.

Also, it would seem that SouthBond stumbled into the Polyamory forum on accident and promptly made a fool of himself. Try to be a little more perceptive and considerate.

07-02-2007, 03:29 AM	#10 (permalink)
Kilauea Registered Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 4 Location: Indiana Status: Couple	Re: Vacations in a poly relationship...... This is a very interesting subject. For me, I don't think I'd get involved with someone that I wouldn't want to be around if I went on vacation so it wouldn't be a big deal. It would be a lot more fun with 3 rather than 2! But to your specific situation. I would think that if you can offer to not go and gauge how they respond you'd be able to figure out what the truth is. I'm a very blunt person, usually, and I'd probably just try to not beat around the bush and just say what it is I'm worried about to them directly. "I'm worried you are just being nice to me but you really want time alone with him. If thats the case then it is ok with me if you guys go alone and have a good time." That is, of course, if it IS ok with you. Also, it would seem that SouthBond stumbled into the Polyamory forum on accident and promptly made a fool of himself. Try to be a little more perceptive and considerate.