 Re: what would you do different?
1) Thinking that it's normal to feel morally compromised if you want to swing. If you have to do this, you shouldn't be swinging because nothing but negativity and self-destruction can come from it. No one should do anything that detracts from their lives.
2) Not realizing that we have a responsibility to not only our own marriage, but to the marriages of others (eg: refusing to play if you know that it would harm their relationship...even if they're smokin' hot). If you respect marriage, you respect the institution itself, not just the people in it. If you hold your own marriage sacred, how can it be right to value your own marriage and not another? How can it be right to protect your own bond, and at the same time knowingly undermine something so sacred between others? And is it our place to determine whether their marriage is worth respecting or not? Perhaps their marriage might appear pointless to us, but to them, it is sacred. We have to respect that.
3) Thinking that it's normal to have to shut off emotions to be able to swing. Emotions need to be dealt with, not ignored.
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