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iapr · 07-01-2007, 12:33 PM

HAVING A LOT OF RULES IN THE BIGINNING IS NOT A MISTAKE!!!!!!!!

It is an important early step in establishing rules and boundries and comfort zones and then along with that as your first baby steps are being made it shows that each of you are capable of following the rules and are able to be assertive enough that you are able to make others follow your rules. Now as you become more experienced and confident and learn more about the environment it is true that some if not many rules will become a non-issue and fall by the wayside.

As is said many times on here the key is communication and keeping somewhat day by day track of where your interests and comfort levels are at any given time. The moral story here is that the specific rules are not as important as TALKING ABOUT the rules. The rules over time will change, some will be dropped and some will be added, what is key is that you are talking about it on a regular and ongoing basis.

07-01-2007, 12:33 PM	#81 (permalink)
iapr Has Left the Building Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 832 Location: State of bliss Status: couple	Re: what would you do different? HAVING A LOT OF RULES IN THE BIGINNING IS NOT A MISTAKE!!!!!!!! It is an important early step in establishing rules and boundries and comfort zones and then along with that as your first baby steps are being made it shows that each of you are capable of following the rules and are able to be assertive enough that you are able to make others follow your rules. Now as you become more experienced and confident and learn more about the environment it is true that some if not many rules will become a non-issue and fall by the wayside. As is said many times on here the key is communication and keeping somewhat day by day track of where your interests and comfort levels are at any given time. The moral story here is that the specific rules are not as important as TALKING ABOUT the rules. The rules over time will change, some will be dropped and some will be added, what is key is that you are talking about it on a regular and ongoing basis.