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RidesLikeNew · 06-30-2007, 10:59 AM

Hubby and I have talked "around" the subject for years, maybe decades, in our 30 years together, but he always clams up when I ask him to tell me the details of his fantasies, or to talk about actually finding another couple.

I know it's usually the guys who have a hard time getting their wives to talk about it, but I think you could use this with a few modifications in the other direction....

Yesterday, though, I did two things --

1. I bought a "big giant book of erotic photographs of women" (I can't remember the title, but is what something like that, I bought it at Borders in Cincinnati for 19.99, and if you can get it in Cincy, you can get it anywhere) and sat with him and paged through it pointing out the ones I thought were hot. [Men: Try buying a book about sexy massage techniques and showing it to your wife.] I have discovered that there seem to be two questions that men never say no to: Want a blowjob? and Want to see some pictures of naked women? [For women, it's Would you like me to massage your feet while we're here on the couch watching TV? and I just so love the feel of your skin on my hands, will you let me just run my hands over you naked? If you're in a place with her where neither of these gets a yes, sorry to hear that...}

2. The big ice breaker--so I dropped easily into the game we play of "this hotel offers a blow job with morning coffee, would you like that service today?" [Men, try getting up early, making coffee before she wakes up, and offering massage with morning coffee at your hotel.] And when that progressed into more, I said, "Did you ask your wife if i was okay to fuck me?" and he said, "yeah, she's pretty broad-minded about this stuff." And I said, "My husband said it was fine for you to fuck me...but I imagine he's going to want to fuck your wife, is that okay?"

And, with that, we finally were able to talk about wanting to meet another couple, he, believe it or not, had no idea about the internet resources for doing that.

And even though we're in our 50s, we had three different lovemaking sessions that day, discussing plans to possibly meet someone tonight.

Cheers, RidesLikeNew

06-30-2007, 10:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
RidesLikeNew Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 29 Location: Cincinnati, OH Status: Couple	How I found a way to bring up the subject Hubby and I have talked "around" the subject for years, maybe decades, in our 30 years together, but he always clams up when I ask him to tell me the details of his fantasies, or to talk about actually finding another couple. I know it's usually the guys who have a hard time getting their wives to talk about it, but I think you could use this with a few modifications in the other direction.... Yesterday, though, I did two things -- 1. I bought a "big giant book of erotic photographs of women" (I can't remember the title, but is what something like that, I bought it at Borders in Cincinnati for 19.99, and if you can get it in Cincy, you can get it anywhere) and sat with him and paged through it pointing out the ones I thought were hot. [Men: Try buying a book about sexy massage techniques and showing it to your wife.] I have discovered that there seem to be two questions that men never say no to: Want a blowjob? and Want to see some pictures of naked women? [For women, it's Would you like me to massage your feet while we're here on the couch watching TV? and I just so love the feel of your skin on my hands, will you let me just run my hands over you naked? If you're in a place with her where neither of these gets a yes, sorry to hear that...} 2. The big ice breaker--so I dropped easily into the game we play of "this hotel offers a blow job with morning coffee, would you like that service today?" [Men, try getting up early, making coffee before she wakes up, and offering massage with morning coffee at your hotel.] And when that progressed into more, I said, "Did you ask your wife if i was okay to fuck me?" and he said, "yeah, she's pretty broad-minded about this stuff." And I said, "My husband said it was fine for you to fuck me...but I imagine he's going to want to fuck your wife, is that okay?" And, with that, we finally were able to talk about wanting to meet another couple, he, believe it or not, had no idea about the internet resources for doing that. And even though we're in our 50s, we had three different lovemaking sessions that day, discussing plans to possibly meet someone tonight. Cheers, RidesLikeNew