 Re: Any Men Whose Wives Refuse to Even Consider Swinging?
In response to the OP,
Your situation is definately challenging. Jay and I are fortunate in we are sexually a very good match and compatible. Number one, the fact is you cannot "make" her do something that she simply is morally or for whatever reason against doing. Not implying that you have done this at all. If she is dead set against swinging you do not want to push her, because we know couples where the woman did it because he wanted her to and now its turned on him. She has the attitude of this is what you wanted, you got it...not nice to watch. BUT. Then you run into the opinion that YOU are half the marriage, and as entitled to happiness as she is. So then I think "well, he has needs too. Is it fair for her to NOT give him sexual intimacy and then deny him the ability to seek it elsewhere?" So its a hard call. You really need to talk with her. Not in an angry or condescending way. I would sit down with her and explain your needs and what you want and what you need. She sounds like a good woman. Best of luck to you,
Shelly
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