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I'll accept that you want things to change, people do change. If what you say is true that you have been an exceptionally great husband, except for your sexual wrongs. ...... what if.

What if you find out you were wrong about why your wife was in her sexual rut with you, because she just doesn't find you all that in bed. You don't exactly float her boat and the only reason she actually has stayed with you through all these years was just for the sake of the kids ,your business, and a financial dependence on you. Or, just her morals that staying with the one you married is the wright thing to do.

What if she in fact wants sex in every way possible, threesomes, foursomes, bisexual, even a gang bang, everything under the sun sexually except for one thing. She, doesn't want you there.

Ya know, women are so different it may have been you who were fooled all along.

What if you find out that all these times she was with you. From every time you thought you got her off, she was just faking it because emotionally, you just didn't rock her world. She had to fake it because she felt .. stuck with you. Wouldn't that be a bitter pill to swallow?

Seriously maybe you can not be honest with your wife and the counselor. But, what if this brings out feelings that your wife has had repressed all her entire life with you. Sure she wants to keep the marriage and let you do your thing but what if she wants to fly solo and to achieve her sexual gratifications like you.... she doesn't want you there?

Would you give her that sacrifice? Let her have her playmates, let her explore every sexual fantasy she has ever had, and trust me she has had fantasies you just don't know what they are. Will you give her that freedom, sexual freedom?

Can you handle that ? Her having "just sex" long, extended sex. No emotional bonds with sexual playmates and you don't get the privilege of the details because she wants the same that you have had so many years.

Can you take care of the business the home the family problems while she is being a good swinger and going on sexual missions and yes you don't get the privilege of being there because she has sexual repressions and she doesn't want you there?

I just want to know, can you be all giving and let her have all she wants sexually, with out you there. You don't even get the details. Will you keep the home safe while she is gone? How giving are you ?

What if things change, and they are not in your favor ? Lets face it, when you brought up this lifestyle, you opened Pandora's box, you planted the seed. It's gonna be pretty tricky to control things in counseling.

B,e prepared for the things that are from her. What if she has some fantasy of a five black male gang bang and you being at home with dinner ready when she gets home.? Some how, aren't you gonna have to think to yourself..... Well, I do owe her a few nights out without me.... Don't you ?

Be honest, how do you feel about her sexual fantasies, if you have no and I mean, no control? Seriously, be honest with yourself. She is a woman and you can never read her mind either.