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Originally Posted by DKent Spoomonkey states that "because my marriage is not based upon trust and communication" (which isn't so, but I won't start that thread), we'll never be swingers! So, in other words, every couple who are completely open, trusting, communicate perfectly, etc., CAN swing? Absolute malarkey! |
Two points:
1. Please explain to me how your marriage is built on communication and trust? She may trust you, but you've admitted that she doesn't know everything about you. She simply trusts the lies you're telling... Right? You only tell her what you want her to know... Isn't that true? Please explain your moral high ground on this point?
2. Your argument here is bullocks. I did not say that any couple who is open, trusting, etc. CAN swing. I would never even imply such a ridiculous thing. It is possible to be open, trusting, honest about your insecurities and your jealousies. And it can also be possible to be honest and open about your convictions about monogamy.
I also am not implying that every couple who swings is open and honest. I have seen my share of train wrecks out there and am under no illusion that swing-dom is exempt from such drama.
What I was saying is - should you be capable of comprehending it - honesty and communication are a part of the foundation of a successful swinging couple.
Spoomonkey