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Originally Posted by applevenus How dare you express and try to be open eh ? |
Being open takes a bit of courage - the courage to make yourself vulnerable to unvarnished truth. The truth is, he isn't going to swing because his marriage lacks a couple of things - communication and trust. Without those, none of us would be swinging...
I communicate with my wife - and she knows that she can trust me and my motivations to swing. If she didn't know what was going on in my head - and had to worry about what MIGHT be going on in my head - we'd be the typical American tragedy that is called marriage - and I might be right here, "aw-shucks-in'" with the rest of you guys.
He wanted to vent about his inability to coerce his wife into swinging - though as TNT pointed out, she's given it a lot more effort than many wives would. If he expected us to applaud his honesty - the honesty that he is basically shitting on a pretty good woman from the way he describes her - then he understands less about swinging couples than he thinks he does. As do you, applevenus.
Cheaters get little, if any, sympathy here because cheating is completely opposite of swinging. Yes - being a swinger doesn't make your marriage perfect or "above reproach", but the basics to "doing it right" are the kind of things that can make any marriage - even the most vanilla - exciting and strong. So - stop being surprised and offended if we don't have a lot of pity for guys who aren't doing the "hard work" of valuing their marriage - and then come here wondering what went wrong...
Spoomonkey