The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Any Men Whose Wives Refuse to Even Consider Swinging?

Fringeswinger · 06-27-2007, 02:46 PM

Obviously you are not "the only one". My 44 yr old wife and mother of 3 will never swing. Its not in her nature, she isn't wired that way, she has no fantasies and is absolutely not interested in doing anything beyond what she has become accustomed to: 3 positions, no oral either giving or receiving, no anal, no toys, no fantasies, blah blah blah. Yes I have tried over the 17 years (15 married this year).

On a "sexually minded" scale of 1-10, she would be a 3, I would be an 8. I think about it all the time. She could take it or leave it. I have repressed my sexual needs and desires for many many years, resorting to porn and my own fantasies in "personal time". Fortunately, I have never cheated - that is something that is not in MY nature.

I have had deep, personal, private communications with several great members of this board. One is not a swinger, and has decided to remain that way. One was not a swinger, but became one after our chats. Another is not a swinger, but is seriously considering it. All of them gave great insightful advice, and it was very comforting to share stories and feelings regarding swinging and just sexual issues in general.

But bottom line, it's just not gonna happen, and I have learned to deal with it.

Given the nature of this board, its not suprising to think that swinging is either "fairly common" or that it will be "just a matter of time" before your wife comes around if you just plant the seed. Maybe, maybe not, I've only had one wife from which to glean experience, so what do I know? All I know is that in my case, in her own words "Not gonna happen, babe". Oh yeah, one more thing I know is that virgins and Catholic school girls are both, in my humble opinion, highly over-rated.

And why do I read this board? Its entertaining, its vouyeristic. I like to hear about the lives of the rich and famous too, but I'll never be one of them. And every now and then, I do feel qualified to voice an opinion and see where I stand among the more sexually experienced.

So that's my story. You are unique as is everyone else, but you are not alone. I'm purely guessing, but I'd think that for every "conversion" there are 100 "are you nuts?" responses from wives/husbands who will never swing.

Who keeps the stats on the % of swingers in the country anyway. I'd like to read that report.

Bill

06-27-2007, 02:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
Fringeswinger Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 50 Location: New Orleans	Re: Any Men Whose Wives Refuse to Even Consider Swinging? Obviously you are not "the only one". My 44 yr old wife and mother of 3 will never swing. Its not in her nature, she isn't wired that way, she has no fantasies and is absolutely not interested in doing anything beyond what she has become accustomed to: 3 positions, no oral either giving or receiving, no anal, no toys, no fantasies, blah blah blah. Yes I have tried over the 17 years (15 married this year). On a "sexually minded" scale of 1-10, she would be a 3, I would be an 8. I think about it all the time. She could take it or leave it. I have repressed my sexual needs and desires for many many years, resorting to porn and my own fantasies in "personal time". Fortunately, I have never cheated - that is something that is not in MY nature. I have had deep, personal, private communications with several great members of this board. One is not a swinger, and has decided to remain that way. One was not a swinger, but became one after our chats. Another is not a swinger, but is seriously considering it. All of them gave great insightful advice, and it was very comforting to share stories and feelings regarding swinging and just sexual issues in general. But bottom line, it's just not gonna happen, and I have learned to deal with it. Given the nature of this board, its not suprising to think that swinging is either "fairly common" or that it will be "just a matter of time" before your wife comes around if you just plant the seed. Maybe, maybe not, I've only had one wife from which to glean experience, so what do I know? All I know is that in my case, in her own words "Not gonna happen, babe". Oh yeah, one more thing I know is that virgins and Catholic school girls are both, in my humble opinion, highly over-rated. And why do I read this board? Its entertaining, its vouyeristic. I like to hear about the lives of the rich and famous too, but I'll never be one of them. And every now and then, I do feel qualified to voice an opinion and see where I stand among the more sexually experienced. So that's my story. You are unique as is everyone else, but you are not alone. I'm purely guessing, but I'd think that for every "conversion" there are 100 "are you nuts?" responses from wives/husbands who will never swing. Who keeps the stats on the % of swingers in the country anyway. I'd like to read that report. Bill