[OnHArry]

I can really sympathise with you Knottiboi, my wife had two bad experiences, in a month and she won't do anything now except one boyfriend she has.

I of course am left out in the cold, (poor me) but seriously, the first time you said no should have been more than adequate, I would never dream of forcing myself on someone who did not want me, for whatever reason.

You were right no one deserves to be treated that way and as one poster observed, well several actually, these guys were obviously not swingers, but seemed to assume that because they were at a swinger party that any woman they wanted would fall down at their feet and spread her legs, NOT.

I hope you do cope and go on to have more fun, but I also know from my wife's experience it really weighs you down. Take care and have fun.