[WesternSwing]

I agree with Chicup, if you keep the same rules forever than someone's heart really isn't in it, or jealousy is a problem they aren't addressing or discussing.

We started with a laundry list of rules (in fact I think one of my first posts were about our rules) and we've pretty much threw those out the window one by one over the years as we've become more comfortable with the Lifestyle and with each other. We're down to four biggies and that's about it:

No taking one for the team.
If we want to play alone we ask if it is okay with each other.
All play is disclosed beforehand, not after the fact.
Always use condoms

We've eliminated all those having to do with what sex acts are off limits or those about single men or women, playing solo, flirting, cross-contact, or contact with playmates without the other being present.

I think that as we've become more experienced we've also become even more trusting of the other person and even more sure that we are "it" for each other and that in the end it's just "us".

Mr. WS