 Our declining number of rules.
Hello Y'all,
Laurie and I have been active in the lifestyle for 10 months now. We are having a great time. I have noticed something that makes me raise an eyebrow.
When we started we had a list of rules. One by one we have decided to discard those rules. When we started we agreed that we would never do something with a playmate that we hadn't done together first. Now days I figure if a playmate is experianced in something we aren't familiar with go for it and we'll learn.
When we started we were same room only and played as a couple only. Now I'm perfectly comfortable if a guy we know takes Laurie upstairs at a party. I may go to watch or join if I'm not busy but neither of us feels the NEED for me to be there.
Even our condom rule has a little wiggle room these days. There are 2 couples we know well. We know they are always very careful so we don't worry about it with them.
The only rule we've added is "We don't play on the first meeting" and even that has a quiet little "except when we do" tacked on to the end.
Is this a common experiance? I'm curious to hear of others have made the same progression.
Thanks,
Jeff and Laurie
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