[Lovethenights]

An appropriately treated and appropriately educated individual with healthy personal integrity who has herpes poses a low risk of transmission when barrier measures (condoms) are assiduously employed. This means they take their suppressive medications as they should and they willingly and thoughtfully abstain from sex when they note or suspect disease activity. The individual who doesn't know they have herpes can't be expected to act according to the best principles for prevention. I'd rather deal with the known case than the unknown case.