The Swingers Board - View Single Post - When they think "NO" means "Just push harder"

knottyboi · 06-19-2007, 07:45 PM

I can't tell you all how much your support means to me. I was feeling like a "bad swinger" because I didn't just go with it, and I coudn't understand why I was feeling so terrible about myself. I *did* tell them both twice I wasn't interested and I said "no" very clearly. I didn't beat around the bush about it. So that's why it was even worse when one of them came a hair's breath from going inside me - it was such a surprise and so very unwelcome. The hostess did end up apologizing to me later because she knew all of us but not them, they had been vouched for by other friends of hers that didn't end up coming to the room.

It was hard to hear that some of you think that it pretty much was to be expected, that that is what group sex is about, but I can't believe that. I've been in a few groups before and it was always very respectful, always with each person either asking out loud if it was okay, or approaching each other in a slow way to give a person a chance to say no. I've never been made to feel like a whore.

I appreciate your kind words and it's helped that one man that was there wrote me and said that he was unhappy with what had happened but that he thinks I handled it really well, and this all has made me feel so much better.

06-19-2007, 07:45 PM	#18 (permalink)
knottyboi Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 10 Location: Kentucky Status: Single female Swing Lifestyle Name:knottyboi	Re: When they think "NO" means "Just push harder" I can't tell you all how much your support means to me. I was feeling like a "bad swinger" because I didn't just go with it, and I coudn't understand why I was feeling so terrible about myself. I did tell them both twice I wasn't interested and I said "no" very clearly. I didn't beat around the bush about it. So that's why it was even worse when one of them came a hair's breath from going inside me - it was such a surprise and so very unwelcome. The hostess did end up apologizing to me later because she knew all of us but not them, they had been vouched for by other friends of hers that didn't end up coming to the room. It was hard to hear that some of you think that it pretty much was to be expected, that that is what group sex is about, but I can't believe that. I've been in a few groups before and it was always very respectful, always with each person either asking out loud if it was okay, or approaching each other in a slow way to give a person a chance to say no. I've never been made to feel like a whore. I appreciate your kind words and it's helped that one man that was there wrote me and said that he was unhappy with what had happened but that he thinks I handled it really well, and this all has made me feel so much better.