[The Fuse]

Alcohol or no alcohol, play situation or not, people who have never played with each other before have seriously got to make sure that sexual advances are welcome. These two guys clearly felt entitled, which is exactly the wrong attitude.

knottiboi, please don't take any blame on yourself. You said no, you meant no. In the future, you might avoid these things happening by simply saying "not interested" in a more forceful way, one that leaves no doubt even to a guy whose dick is speaking to him loudly in a primal language.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It was a sexually charged situation where the guys might have had some reasonable expectation of play with someone, since the hostess invited them in. But trying to enter you from behind while you were otherwise occupied, and without your prior permission, is attempted rape. They did not respect you. If anything, the first time you have sex with a new playmate, they ought to be making damn sure you really want it, not trying to slip it in.

Have you talked with your hostess about this? Hindsight is 20-20, but perhaps she should have checked with you before invited two single guys you'd never been with.