[WildMainePussy]

YOU certainly deserve someone who does care about you more than his pecker. So sorry you had to find out by stumbling on stuff in the computer - but he is probably on more than just one swing site and may be using several names and email accounts to hide behind as well.

Sounds like you've decided to grab the suitcase and leave the rubbish behind.
Too bad you can't hear me applauding but I am.

It's fine to be in agreement once a stable relationship is established that a little bit of swing will make life interesting provided it's all above board and it's done TOGETHER. The bond between two committed people (who have the understanding that if one ain't happy, it ain't happenin') has to be strong one to even consider inviting others or jumping into their beds. I have a standing agreement with my partner....we hunt together and he's content he wouldn't have to sneak around then.

As far as suggestions on moving out while he's away...hum "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover" by Garfunkel...I did. I left the key on the kitchen table after the moving van was packed, change of address cards handed to the postie and headed to Florida for a couple of weeks to get my head straight. Take only what you need, it's a great way to unclutter your life at the same time. Enjoy the freedom!