 Re: When they think "NO" means "Just push harder"
Susan here-- You've had an extreme experience where you felt violated and were. These are strong emotional experiences, whether they're sexual in nature or not. And justifiably, some people, don't get over them quickly.
Years ago, in college, Ed went to a night of avante garde performances. It was typical college stuff. Then, a blind guitar player performed folk music, who was a woman. out of the crowd came two men how started to abuse her. Eddie immediately came to her defense while the crowd watched. It was part of the act. The woman expected noone to come to her aid and demonstrate how violence against women goes unchallenged. Well, she was wrong about that. Security was called and the evening ended. Eddie was really upset, as was everyone there, when it turned out to be 'art'. It took him a long time to get over it because the emotions of the moment were so strong. I think you'll be the same way. Now, it didn't mean we didn't go out any more. He was just ticked off at the person who had the audacity to try something like that.
While he won't let the experience effect his life, the emotions of anger, dare I say rage, over it, took time to pass. It's normal. |