[good times]

I agree with Chicup, if you broach a subject they don't feel like sharing, the worse that can happen is that they might tell you they would prefer not to say.

This is one of those cases that I think you might be over thinking this or worrying about it too much, just go and be yourself. I am one of those people that if, during a conversation with someone I think it, I will probably say it. Yet I haven't ever had anyone refuse to answer a question I have asked. In my experience when meeting someone for the first time in swinging, it really is pretty much the same as meeting anyone else for the first time.