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Originally Posted by cyasoon My question is, we have met a single male that my wife is attracted to. I personally don't mind who she picks as long as they are clean and civil. However this is where I run into my question. I thought our first experience would be with a couple. At least that is what I had planned on. |
Hi Cyasoon,
I just wanted to briefly answer this part. In swinging, it's best if both of you are 100% on board with any partner(s) you choose. Deciding who you're going to include needs to be a joint decision. You said that you don't mind who
she picks - but what about picking together?
You wish you could start out with a couple -- have you told your wife this? If you feel this way, tell her. There's nothing wrong with both of you getting what you want out of this. In fact, it's important that you do. Resentments, jealousy, feeling left out - these feelings can happen, and can cause problems between you, if you compromise and leave the decision-making to one spouse.
You could pursue a couple you're both attracted to for your first experience, and you could put the MFM on the back burner for a later date, if this feels right for you. Best wishes.
