[DBL D]

I think that what is happening here is that a young person sees being with someone other than their SO, in a general sense, as swinging. What the one playing seems to think is that it is okay. It isn't that he doesn't respect his SO, in his mind, it's the idea of sexual freedom he gets. For this reason, he doesn't ask about whether his "SO" is getting any, so that is what leads me to think this is so.

I agree...if you want to swing , you have to have a bit of a stronger relationship with your SO. If he wants to play the field, then you should know how and what he is doing.

Male D