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Originally Posted by hudsoncouple
"He says what ever we are comfortable with is fine but, he is looking forward to a full swap." Sorry, but I don't like him already... This is the definition of pushy.
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I've got to chime in with hudsoncouple and curiousswingers. Since this guy outright said he's looking for a full swap, he's probably expecting it and will be pushing for it.
Even if your wife is ready for it once the play has begun, you may not be. In a flash they may be doing full swap and you won't know what hit you.
I'd tell the guy you have decided you'd like to meet him first, just to get to know each other better - a 'no play' meet. See how he replies to that. If he drops out of sight or contests, you'll know he isn't willing to take things at your pace.
Another advantage to a no-play meet is that you and your wife can learn so much more about him face to face. You may not like the guy. It will also give you a chance to meet a swinger (sounds like you've not done this yet) and have time afterward to talk to your wife about how you each felt about the guy and whether you want to make a play date.
LM