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hudsoncouple · 05-31-2007, 01:48 PM

Although there are no "10 commandments of swinging"... a good rule of thumb that most people follow to make sure you both develop a healthy and long lasting lifestyle, is to move at the speed of the slowest member of the couple. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get your feet wet with soft experiences... both your SO and the couple/single you agree to play with should respect the concerns/requests/desires of the most conservative/new person. Slow, slow, slow... nothing wrong with that and you should talk extensively to your SO about setting your rules. You should only play with people that are willing to respect these rules.

"He says what ever we are comfortable with is fine but, he is looking forward to a full swap." Sorry, but I don't like him already... This is the definition of pushy.

Have fun and don't feel bad about going slow... that's how all good things happen.
Cheers, H.

05-31-2007, 01:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
hudsoncouple Registered Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 9 Location: Pittsburgh Status: Single male	Re: asking for less? Although there are no "10 commandments of swinging"... a good rule of thumb that most people follow to make sure you both develop a healthy and long lasting lifestyle, is to move at the speed of the slowest member of the couple. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get your feet wet with soft experiences... both your SO and the couple/single you agree to play with should respect the concerns/requests/desires of the most conservative/new person. Slow, slow, slow... nothing wrong with that and you should talk extensively to your SO about setting your rules. You should only play with people that are willing to respect these rules. "He says what ever we are comfortable with is fine but, he is looking forward to a full swap." Sorry, but I don't like him already... This is the definition of pushy. Have fun and don't feel bad about going slow... that's how all good things happen. Cheers, H.