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cyasoon · 05-31-2007, 01:33 PM

We are new to the lifestyle and have not had any experiences yet. My question is, we have met a single male that my wife is attracted to. I personally don't mind who she picks as long as they are clean and civil. However this is where I run into my question. I thought our first experience would be with a couple. At least that is what I had planned on. That being said sometimes things don't happen the way you see in your mind. I am not sure that on our first experience that it should be a full swap. I guess the reason why is what if we don't like it? I have asked him if he would mind the first time we play if we choose to, if just oral would be okay? He says what ever we are comfortable with is fine but, he is looking forward to a full swap. Is this wrong of me? I have no problems with just oral but, not sure I want it to go to the full swap right off the bat. Trust me I have no doubts about a full swap later on but, think we should just ease into the lifestyle rather than jump on the first ship that sails by. I know my wife is really looking forward to a full swap but, will not push me if I say I am not ready. What do you all think about me asking him about holding it to just oral only? Is it dumb of me or am I doing what most would do?

05-31-2007, 01:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
cyasoon Registered Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 4 Location: In the dust bowl Status: couple	Setting boundaries on first experience We are new to the lifestyle and have not had any experiences yet. My question is, we have met a single male that my wife is attracted to. I personally don't mind who she picks as long as they are clean and civil. However this is where I run into my question. I thought our first experience would be with a couple. At least that is what I had planned on. That being said sometimes things don't happen the way you see in your mind. I am not sure that on our first experience that it should be a full swap. I guess the reason why is what if we don't like it? I have asked him if he would mind the first time we play if we choose to, if just oral would be okay? He says what ever we are comfortable with is fine but, he is looking forward to a full swap. Is this wrong of me? I have no problems with just oral but, not sure I want it to go to the full swap right off the bat. Trust me I have no doubts about a full swap later on but, think we should just ease into the lifestyle rather than jump on the first ship that sails by. I know my wife is really looking forward to a full swap but, will not push me if I say I am not ready. What do you all think about me asking him about holding it to just oral only? Is it dumb of me or am I doing what most would do?