[jjpeople]

We're new to the lifestyle and just had our first swinging experience. It was with this couple we have gotten to know and respect a lot. They basically mentored us - gave us a lot of advice are pretty easy going, not easily offended, etc.

Anyway, the plan was to meet at a hotel, play, get some dinner and then head to this local club where several other couples would also be (we've been there before, it's a swingers hang out, but not a swingers club).

So the play went great. Dinner went great....except that we were still swapped and the Mrs. on their side was still very into the Mr. on our side. So she suggested going back to the hotel again for a quickie before the club. The quickie wasn't so quick and it wasn't as fun and exciting the second time around. We then all got ourselves together and headed to the club, but we were still pretty much paried up with the other couple.

At what point do the couples "switch back?" I was having fun, no jealousy or any of that, but it was our first experience and I wanted to compare notes with my husband and really just have some time with him after everything had happened. But the way things went, I felt I had an obligation to entertain their Mr. He is a great guy, but I really needed to regroup with my husband and it put a bit of a damper on the night because I couldn't.

They are a great couple and I suppose I could have said something and I doubt they would have been offended, but I'm not really sure how I should have handled this.

Any ideas/thoughts?

Thanks!