The Swingers Board - View Single Post - FMF to please only the male...what are the odds?

**good times** · 05-22-2007, 02:55 PM

I agree with the suggestions above.

If you go to on-premise clubs enough, once in a while you will find a single female that might be interested. It is rare, but in five years of going to the on-premise clubs regularly (two or three weekends a month) we have run across several of them.

I am unclear from this post if your wife is interested in male partners at all, so don't know if this is the only thing you are pursuing or if it is just one of the things you would like to do. The reason I say that is because most of the time when people find one of these women that is interested in what you are looking for, it is usually an accidental meeting or just a happy coincidence.

The problem is that if you go to the clubs and never play with anyone, it doesn't take long to get the reputation of someone who never plays, and that would decrease the chances of hooking up with one of these women even if they did show up at the club. Their are a couple of reasons for this,

First of all, right or wrong, most club regulars know pretty much every other club regulars play preferences, and most don't hesitate to share what they know, or think they know, with anyone else. In our case, this has actually worked to our advantage, I can't tell how many times someone became interested in playing with us based on what they heard around the club from others. Unfortunately, I have also seen it work the opposite with other couples. Several times we were given the impression by others that a couple didn't play, yet because we are pretty outgoing and rarely let what others say deter us we ended up playing with them anyway.

The bigger problem though is the matter of experience. When a unicorn shows up at the club, she is in high demand and their will be a lot of couples pursuing her. I can tell you from our experience that it took us about three years to get comfortable with approaching people successfully for sex. We still aren't as good at it as some, but we do much better now than we did when we first started out. The fact is, if you are low on experience, you will probably also have a harder time getting results.

I don't say all this to deter you from your pursuit, but just for some things to consider to be better prepared.

05-22-2007, 02:55 PM	#7 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Fmf I agree with the suggestions above. If you go to on-premise clubs enough, once in a while you will find a single female that might be interested. It is rare, but in five years of going to the on-premise clubs regularly (two or three weekends a month) we have run across several of them. I am unclear from this post if your wife is interested in male partners at all, so don't know if this is the only thing you are pursuing or if it is just one of the things you would like to do. The reason I say that is because most of the time when people find one of these women that is interested in what you are looking for, it is usually an accidental meeting or just a happy coincidence. The problem is that if you go to the clubs and never play with anyone, it doesn't take long to get the reputation of someone who never plays, and that would decrease the chances of hooking up with one of these women even if they did show up at the club. Their are a couple of reasons for this, First of all, right or wrong, most club regulars know pretty much every other club regulars play preferences, and most don't hesitate to share what they know, or think they know, with anyone else. In our case, this has actually worked to our advantage, I can't tell how many times someone became interested in playing with us based on what they heard around the club from others. Unfortunately, I have also seen it work the opposite with other couples. Several times we were given the impression by others that a couple didn't play, yet because we are pretty outgoing and rarely let what others say deter us we ended up playing with them anyway. The bigger problem though is the matter of experience. When a unicorn shows up at the club, she is in high demand and their will be a lot of couples pursuing her. I can tell you from our experience that it took us about three years to get comfortable with approaching people successfully for sex. We still aren't as good at it as some, but we do much better now than we did when we first started out. The fact is, if you are low on experience, you will probably also have a harder time getting results. I don't say all this to deter you from your pursuit, but just for some things to consider to be better prepared.
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