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OhioCouple · 07-10-2002, 08:29 AM

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Originally posted by incommunicado:
Again, I get that this is a "different strokes thing," but help me understand. You can share the closest physical intimacy that is possible between humans, but simple touches and caresses that show that you are more than just a piece of meat, and that they are glad it was you they were just intimate with...THAT's off limits?

So... what do you do?

Couch it in simple terms I can understand:

Scenario A: You just had sex with some strange guy at a club. Your play session is over you (INSERT WORDS OR ACTIONS HERE).

Scenario B: Same as above, but it was a long time swinging friend.

This is how it would work for me.

Scenario A: ~ We would put our clothes back on and perhaps share a thankfull kiss and rejoin the people outside of the room and mingle. Since you do not "know" them "know" them chances are you will go your separate ways.

Scenario B: ~ Certainly the sex would be different as knowing them, we would both be keenly aware of each others desires. BUT...we would put our clothes back on and perhaps share a more intimate kiss [Kissing]

and then rejoin our spouses and friends and enjoy great conversation again.

I have no problem with the display of affection or such in a "public" environment from another person. That is foreplay and afterplay, but as for the kick back cuddle, snuggle lets talk about life in general "thingie"

in a room where you have just had sex privately, it crosses the emotional boundries for me.

Let's face it, you go to a private area/room to have sex, not to discuss how your day was or resolve world matters. This sort of conversation can be had in the midst of everyone that we are friends with and our spouses. And then of course afterplay...and maybe a little more foreplay can resume...

Lori

07-10-2002, 08:29 AM	#21 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	quote: Originally posted by incommunicado: Again, I get that this is a "different strokes thing," but help me understand. You can share the closest physical intimacy that is possible between humans, but simple touches and caresses that show that you are more than just a piece of meat, and that they are glad it was you they were just intimate with...THAT's off limits? So... what do you do? Couch it in simple terms I can understand: Scenario A: You just had sex with some strange guy at a club. Your play session is over you (INSERT WORDS OR ACTIONS HERE). Scenario B: Same as above, but it was a long time swinging friend. This is how it would work for me. Scenario A: ~ We would put our clothes back on and perhaps share a thankfull kiss and rejoin the people outside of the room and mingle. Since you do not "know" them "know" them chances are you will go your separate ways. Scenario B: ~ Certainly the sex would be different as knowing them, we would both be keenly aware of each others desires. BUT...we would put our clothes back on and perhaps share a more intimate kiss and then rejoin our spouses and friends and enjoy great conversation again. I have no problem with the display of affection or such in a "public" environment from another person. That is foreplay and afterplay, but as for the kick back cuddle, snuggle lets talk about life in general "thingie" in a room where you have just had sex privately, it crosses the emotional boundries for me. Let's face it, you go to a private area/room to have sex, not to discuss how your day was or resolve world matters. This sort of conversation can be had in the midst of everyone that we are friends with and our spouses. And then of course afterplay...and maybe a little more foreplay can resume... Lori __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.