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***JustAskJulie*** · 07-09-2002, 10:45 AM

quote:
Originally posted by OhioCouple:
Thanks for the support Quin. I was beginning to think I was nuts or something. The M half said I was being phobic although we both agreed to not swing separately with them again. You expressed it exactly when talking about the intimate chit chat. May as well have lit a ciggarette and poured a scotch, and reflected on the day at hand, like something out of a 1930's movie. For me it crossed the boundries.
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At least I know I am not crazy!

Lori

Nah, definately not crazy

We all have our own boundaries for what makes use feel uncomfortable and what doesn't. My earlier posts were more about the idea that I didn't think HE was crossing a boundary by talking to you that way (at least not a boundary that had previously been set). However, this event has shown you that you need to set a boundary there.

For me I can't deal with other partners being really intimate with me in other ways. Soft touches and carresses seem a little too intimate for a casual sexual encounter to me and always make me feel uncomfortable if someone starts that.
Lying in bed talking to them that way may make me feel that way as well depending on who it is. I tend to be more like a guy when it come to sex tho. "ok we're done I can go now..." Reminds me of "When Harry Met Sally" and Billy Crystal talking about how long does he have to lay there in bed with her once the deed is done.

07-09-2002, 10:45 AM	#10 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,255 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	quote: Originally posted by OhioCouple: Thanks for the support Quin. I was beginning to think I was nuts or something. The M half said I was being phobic although we both agreed to not swing separately with them again. You expressed it exactly when talking about the intimate chit chat. May as well have lit a ciggarette and poured a scotch, and reflected on the day at hand, like something out of a 1930's movie. For me it crossed the boundries. .... At least I know I am not crazy! Lori Nah, definately not crazy We all have our own boundaries for what makes use feel uncomfortable and what doesn't. My earlier posts were more about the idea that I didn't think HE was crossing a boundary by talking to you that way (at least not a boundary that had previously been set). However, this event has shown you that you need to set a boundary there. For me I can't deal with other partners being really intimate with me in other ways. Soft touches and carresses seem a little too intimate for a casual sexual encounter to me and always make me feel uncomfortable if someone starts that. Lying in bed talking to them that way may make me feel that way as well depending on who it is. I tend to be more like a guy when it come to sex tho. "ok we're done I can go now..." Reminds me of "When Harry Met Sally" and Billy Crystal talking about how long does he have to lay there in bed with her once the deed is done. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com