I understand how you feel. When I was in college, I was sleeping with a friend of mine, briefly. The sex was great and she was enthusiastic and generous. But, afterwards, she would get all affectionate and cuddly, wanting me to stay the night and cuddle like we were dating. It made me feel awkward, like she had to pretend afterwards, just for a little bit, that there was more to us than friendship and sex. I figured there had to be compromise between full after-glow, and jumping up, pulling on my clothes and saying "I gotta go...I got a...thing." but I never figured it out.
But, now I think I understand better. You have (if I don't misunderstand your postings) formed a friendship with these people. You are intimate on more than just a sexual level. They may be more comfortable letting the intimacy of friendship cross over into the bedroom, because, you are still friends. You, however, are weirded out by this, thinking there is more to it. If you were playing golf or bowling, the conversation might be the same. Why should it be different if you are having sex?
I wouldn't sweat it unless they start start talking about relationship problems or showing strong signs of getting romantically attached.
Hope this helps. |