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wewannabebad2 · 04-25-2007, 08:57 AM

Thank you to everyone who responded. This has just been so frustrating. Sometimes it just feels like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
We understand the whole concept that friendships fall apart. And we understand not having a lot of time believe me when I say we understand that. I guess we just have a lot to learn. We have however learned one thing, for us our true friends are vanilla friends. The people we have met who are swingers only seem to want our friendship if they're going to get something meaning sex. I guess we want something more than this I'm not talking polyamory but we want more than just one night fuck buddies.
I*the wife half*I'm the one that initiated all of this for us, I thought it would be fun for us. The further I go however I'm finding it not fun. Maybe we've met the wrong people I don't know. All I know is that all we have ran into in our area are people who seem to be shallow, self-centered, and closed minded. Like I was chatting with with a couple the other morning. They wanted to exchange pictures and I told them all I had are G rated and they said that was cool because that's all they had to. The minute I sent our picture they quit talking and never sent theirs.WTF?
So I don't know. I think we're going to take some time away from this. I think my husband has the right idea if we are meant to swing it will happen when we least expect it. Until then however we're going to enjoy the company of our true friends.

04-25-2007, 08:57 AM	#11 (permalink)
wewannabebad2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 113 Location: Texas Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:wewannabebad2	Re: Holier than thou Thank you to everyone who responded. This has just been so frustrating. Sometimes it just feels like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. We understand the whole concept that friendships fall apart. And we understand not having a lot of time believe me when I say we understand that. I guess we just have a lot to learn. We have however learned one thing, for us our true friends are vanilla friends. The people we have met who are swingers only seem to want our friendship if they're going to get something meaning sex. I guess we want something more than this I'm not talking polyamory but we want more than just one night fuck buddies. Ithe wife halfI'm the one that initiated all of this for us, I thought it would be fun for us. The further I go however I'm finding it not fun. Maybe we've met the wrong people I don't know. All I know is that all we have ran into in our area are people who seem to be shallow, self-centered, and closed minded. Like I was chatting with with a couple the other morning. They wanted to exchange pictures and I told them all I had are G rated and they said that was cool because that's all they had to. The minute I sent our picture they quit talking and never sent theirs.WTF? So I don't know. I think we're going to take some time away from this. I think my husband has the right idea if we are meant to swing it will happen when we least expect it. Until then however we're going to enjoy the company of our true friends.