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Originally Posted by wewannabebad2 Then they started saying little things like we don't think this lifestyle is for you, y'all are too slow. Now that ticked us off because we are not slow we are just choosy. |
Rightfully so. Who in THE hell are they to tell you what is and is not right for you? How would they know? If they truly feel that the lifestyle is only for those who drop their drawers with the greatest of ease, I suspect they're going to eventually burn out. It's not about sex, nor about competition. It's about the couple and getting the most out of life. Too slow?? No, you're not too slow. You're moving at exactly the right pace for you. If they want to race on ahead, then that's fine. It simply means your paces are incompatible. It does NOT mean that you are "too slow".
No, I'd say you have enough reason to be annoyed with them. If they really want to persist with te condescension and unsolicited negative opinions, it is in your best interest to cut ties. No need to clutter up one's life with negative people.
Note: We have run into people who were "time wasters". They were definitely too slow, but our frustration sprung from the way they strung us along. Being new at it, we courted them for months, exchanged at least a hundred photos (and they still wanted more) met for dinner a few times, and each time were sent home puzzled. Everything seemed to be going nicely, but it never progressed. The final straw was the night they plied us with drinks and then shoved us out their door to drive home - drunk - in a blizzard. We were always kept at arms length although their ad stated plainly that they wanted to be "friends first" (another newbie oversight). Friends don't treat their friends that way. Hell, you don't treat complete strangers that way. This is the only case where you have a reason to be pissed at someone for going too slow. We were too drunk to screw. We just wanted to spend the night on their living room floor for crying out loud!
Nope, you guys were honest with them and you are respecting yourselves and your relationship. If they can't respect that...screw 'em. Figuratively speaking.