The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Swinger friends now feel they are better than us because they are moving faster

havefuninsun · 04-24-2007, 10:27 AM

We understand the club thing. I'm VERY curious about going, but Mr. Fun is very cautious because of his job ... and, as you've read on this board 1,000 of times, you go at the pace of the slowest person.

This is not meant to be a slam by any means, so read it with an open mind.

I think you may be jealous a bit. Obviously, you guys want to do this; you're excited about doing this. You met a fun couple who was in the same boat. Well, they took off their bathing suits and jumped in the deep in ... and you haven't yet. And they're very excited about their adventures ... they're telling you all about it. Because they're excited, not because they want you guys to feel bad. But it DOES make you feel bad because you want to go swimming too, they didn't wait for you, and (possibly) you are not going to share your cherry with each other.

You don't hear from them as much because they met you to swing with -- let's be real. That's the purpose of you both meeting each other to begin with. Now that they have friends that they CAN indeed swing with, those people are more interesting to them.

Your friendship was based on your swinging with them. It's not the same kind of friendship you have with your "vanilla" friends.

I don't think you're being petty -- I think your feelings and emotions are on target. Just recognize where they're coming from ... and not that they weren't friends to begin with because they don't want to hang out with you guys anymore. Frankly, they're just more interested in hanging out with people who are getting freaky with them.

With all that said -- MOVE AT YOUR OWN PACE. If you guys were not ready to take that leap yet, then DON'T. Keep talking to people ... when the right folks come along, you may find that you can't get out of that swimsuit fast enough to jump off the high dive.

Good luck!!

04-24-2007, 10:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:havefuninsun	Re: Holier than thou We understand the club thing. I'm VERY curious about going, but Mr. Fun is very cautious because of his job ... and, as you've read on this board 1,000 of times, you go at the pace of the slowest person. This is not meant to be a slam by any means, so read it with an open mind. I think you may be jealous a bit. Obviously, you guys want to do this; you're excited about doing this. You met a fun couple who was in the same boat. Well, they took off their bathing suits and jumped in the deep in ... and you haven't yet. And they're very excited about their adventures ... they're telling you all about it. Because they're excited, not because they want you guys to feel bad. But it DOES make you feel bad because you want to go swimming too, they didn't wait for you, and (possibly) you are not going to share your cherry with each other. You don't hear from them as much because they met you to swing with -- let's be real. That's the purpose of you both meeting each other to begin with. Now that they have friends that they CAN indeed swing with, those people are more interesting to them. Your friendship was based on your swinging with them. It's not the same kind of friendship you have with your "vanilla" friends. I don't think you're being petty -- I think your feelings and emotions are on target. Just recognize where they're coming from ... and not that they weren't friends to begin with because they don't want to hang out with you guys anymore. Frankly, they're just more interested in hanging out with people who are getting freaky with them. With all that said -- MOVE AT YOUR OWN PACE. If you guys were not ready to take that leap yet, then DON'T. Keep talking to people ... when the right folks come along, you may find that you can't get out of that swimsuit fast enough to jump off the high dive. Good luck!!