We have been swinging with this couple since we started and have become fairly good friends. We chat often, e-mail or phone each other, IM and that sort of thing talking often about non sex related issues, kids, life etc.
On an outing several weeks ago, we agreed to go to seperate rooms for sex which none of us had a problem with. (We were at a club).
The sex was great as usual, but the difference came when he wanted to lay in bed and discuss personal matters as if we were either lovers or married to each other. This made me very uncomfortable. As I didn't want it to appear as one of those WHAM BAM THANK YA MAA'M kinda thingies (how I love that word)
, I let him talk for a little bit and then started suggesting that we should go and find out what the rest of the crew was up to and proceeded to encourage getting dressed and leaving the room.
I believe he was just trying to get some things off of his chest, but I felt that it should be reserved for his wife either privately or at the table with all of us, in conversation and not in a private area with me after we had just had sex.
I suppose my question is, does getting to know your partners well, create a potential problem? Has anyone else experienced this?
My husband and I talked about this and have come to the agreement that we will not swing in separate rooms with this couple again as in talking about it, I found out that his wife had been chatting with him online about things that he felt he should not be a listening ear to also.
Is this what they call the clinging vine type?
Although they don't seem to be that way, or is it just that the comfort level is there?
Any input on the topic would be greatly appreciated!
Lori
