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Originally Posted by lovinher Is it being unrealistic to want to get to know prospective playmates beforehand? |
No, not at all. We would have to feel comfortable with a couple, certainly. That means knowing a bit about them and getting a feel for them.
But I think Chicup was thinking more about wanting to be friends with swing partners.... the whole Bar-B with the kids on vanillla days sort of deal. That seems to be a common newbie ideal and, for us, neither necessary nor desirable.
I would nominate "Too Many Rules." Sure, you need to know your limits and play safe. But some new couples build this web of rules about things like kissing, touching, oral, that whole soft swing dance. It not only takes a lot of the fun and spontaneity out of a new experience but it just makes something that should be fun seem like work. Too many rules also create the potential for tons of drama when someone breaks a rule... or maybe bends it a bit.
And...great thread, and very thoughful OP.