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I am attracted to your palindromic nature :-) Our female half is a Stacycats!

We have done the swinger thing, we have done the third person female thing, and in the end result, we think we may be happier as a triple than a double or quad. Swinging let us realize that we were both poly and to such an extent that swinging is not as healthy for us, since we as a couple tend to have a problem keeping emotion and sex on completely different levels. Swingers have to be able to keep those toys apart better than we do, and I agree that poly people tend to go overboard, I think that is the nature of it though. It is so hard to find a third person that two others can click with (and at the same time), that when people do find that they have a hard time not bringing a U-Haul to the second date.

Finding people who can feel emotion and share is rather rare, and may be the hardest to discover combo. Would we be able to really dig someone and be comfortable with them having others? We might, but most are not that honest with themselves.

Hmm really that is meandering without answering but in the end result, you are not a freak, unless everyone who posts here is :-) I prefer to think people who live to norm X their entire life without question or challenge are the real freaks.

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